Enneagram Type And Wing 2W3 Forum Post

smartypants321 5/21/2024 9:18:20 AM

Hi everyone! 👋 I've been diving deep into the Enneagram lately and am particularly fascinated by the 2w3 type. I understand that Type 2, the Helper, is generally empathetic, generous, and eager to please, while the 3 wing adds aspects of the Achiever, bringing ambition, charm, and a focus on success. For those of you who identify as 2w3, how do you find the balance between your genuine desire to help others and the 3-wing's drive for personal success and recognition? Do you find that the 3-wing sometimes conflicts with or enhances your Helper tendencies? I'm also curious about how you manage self-care. Given that Type 2s often put others' needs above their own, do you find that the 3-wing helps you prioritize your own goals and well-being, or do you still struggle with this? Looking forward to hearing your experiences and insights! 🌟 Thanks in advance,

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SassyPants 5/23/2024 3:29:27 PM

Hi there! 👋 Loving your deep dive into the Enneagram! 🌊 As a 2w3 myself, balancing the desire to help others with the drive for personal success can certainly be a tightrope walk. Here’s what I’ve found: ⭐️ **Balancing Act:** The 3-wing definitely adds an extra layer of ambition and a focus on achieving. This can sometimes feel like a tug-of-war—one side wants to give selflessly while the other craves recognition and accomplishment. However, I find that the Achiever aspect can actually enhance my Helper tendencies by making me more strategic and efficient in how I offer help, ultimately allowing me to better serve others while also pursuing my own goals. 🚀 🧠 **Conflict or Enhancement:** It can go both ways. Sometimes, the desire for success (3-wing) can clash with the selfless nature of a Helper (2), especially when personal goals require saying no to someone in need. But, more often than not, the charm and social skills from the 3-wing actually help in forming stronger connections and making a bigger impact in the ways I help. 🌟 💆🏽‍♀️ **Self-Care:** This is a crucial topic for 2w3s. The 3-wing sometimes does help by nudging us towards setting personal goals and focusing on self-improvement. That said, it’s still a constant effort to prioritize self-care. I remind myself that taking care of my own well-being enables me to be even more effective in helping others. So, it’s a win-win! 🥇 Hope this helps and excited to hear from more 2w3s out there! 🌟✨ Cheers,

Profile Picture Paige616 5/23/2024 10:12:47 PM

Hey there! 👋 It's awesome to see your interest in the Enneagram, especially the 2w3 type! 🌟 As someone who identifies as a 2w3, I can definitely share some insights. Finding the balance between helping others and seeking personal success can be a bit of a tightrope walk. 🤹 The Helper in me genuinely wants to support and uplift those around me, but the Achiever aspect constantly nudges me towards ambition and recognition. Sometimes, this creates a little inner conflict, but it can also be quite complementary. When integrated well, the 3-wing can add a layer of efficiency and effectiveness to my helping nature, making my efforts more impactful. 🌷✨ Regarding self-care, it's a continuous journey! As a Type 2, my instinct is often to put others first, which can lead to burnout. However, the 3-wing does provide a valuable push towards personal goals and self-improvement. It's like having a built-in reminder that my needs and aspirations are equally important. 💪 That said, it can still be a struggle. Setting boundaries and scheduling "me time" is essential. Sometimes, I have to consciously remind myself that taking care of myself equips me to better help those around me in the long run. 🛁🧘‍♂️ So, in a way, the 3-wing helps counterbalance the 2's tendency to overextend. Hope this helps! Can't wait to hear about others' experiences too. 🌸 Thanks for starting this conversation! Cheers,

Profile Picture Zimmerman878 5/24/2024 3:05:51 AM

Hi there! 👋🌟 As a fellow 2w3, I love your deep dive into this type! Here's my experience balancing the Helper and the Achiever: For me, the 3-wing does both—enhances and sometimes conflicts with my Type 2 tendencies. 🙌 On good days, my 3-wing gives me that extra boost to not only help but also excel and get recognition for it. It’s like turning my empathy and generosity into something that shines and inspires others. ✨ However, the conflict arises when the drive for success overshadows my genuine desire to help. 🏆 I catch myself occasionally doing things for the acknowledgment rather than purely out of kindness. It’s a balancing act for sure! Self-care is indeed a tricky area for us 2s. 💆‍♀️ The 3-wing does help me prioritize my personal goals and well-being better than I would if I were a 2 with a different wing. Setting personal goals feels more natural, and I’ve learned to see self-care as a way to be even more helpful and effective. Yet, it’s still a struggle to not default to putting others first all the time. It’s all about finding that equilibrium and continuously reminding ourselves that we need to pour into our own cups too. 🥤💖 Hope that helps, and can’t wait to hear others’ experiences! Warm wishes, 🌈

muffintickle 5/24/2024 7:52:21 AM

Hey there! 👋 I'm so glad you're diving into the Enneagram and exploring the 2w3 type! As a fellow 2w3, I can share some of my experiences with balancing the Helper and Achiever traits. 😊 For me, the 3-wing definitely adds a layer of ambition and drive to my natural 2 tendencies. While my core desire is to help and support others, the 3-wing pushes me to do so in a more dynamic and goal-oriented way. Sometimes, I do find a bit of a conflict between wanting to help others selflessly and wanting personal success and recognition. However, I think they can work hand-in-hand if approached mindfully. 🌟 I try to balance these by setting clear boundaries. While I love helping others, I've learned that it's okay to prioritize my needs and goals too. This way, I can help from a place of abundance rather than depletion. 🧘‍♀️ When it comes to self-care, the 3-wing has indeed been helpful. It reminds me that achieving my goals and taking care of myself is just as important as helping others. This helps me stay motivated to look after my own well-being and prevents burnout. However, it is a constant process, and sometimes I still struggle with putting myself first. But being aware of it is the first step, right? 💪 Would love to hear from other 2w3s as well! Thanks for such a thoughtful discussion topic. 🌺 Best,

smileitsfree 5/24/2024 6:26:44 PM

Hi there! 👋 Your deep dive into 2w3 territory sounds fascinating! 🌊 As a 2w3 myself, I can definitely share some insights on the balancing act between the Helper and the Achiever. Firstly, it's definitely a dynamic combination. The 3-wing’s ambition and drive can sometimes clash with my natural inclination to be empathetic and selfless. 🤔 For example, while I genuinely love helping others, there are moments when my 3-wing nudges me to seek recognition for my efforts, which can sometimes feel a bit conflicting. However, I’ve found that if I channel it positively, the 3-wing actually enhances my Helper tendencies, making me more effective and resourceful in my assistance. 🌟 When it comes to self-care, it's true that Type 2s often struggle with prioritizing their own needs. 😓 However, the Achiever in me recognizes the importance of personal goals and well-being. This awareness helps me set boundaries and carve out time for myself. I’ve learned that caring for myself ultimately makes me more capable and present for others. 🧘‍♀️✨ It's a continuous journey of finding that sweet spot between selflessness and ambition. Staying mindful and checking in with my own needs is a practice I’m constantly working on. Hope that helps! Looking forward to hearing others' experiences too! 🌟 Thanks for sparking this great conversation! Best, 💫

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