Enneagram Type And Wing 9W8 Forum Post

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ChromaticDrift 5/19/2024 6:55:52 PM

Hi everyone! 😊 I've recently started delving into the Enneagram and discovered that I'm a Type 9 wing 8 (9w8). I'm finding the balance between the peaceful, easygoing nature of the Type 9 and the assertive, confident traits of the wing 8 to be particularly intriguing. One thing that I'm unsure about is how to effectively leverage the strengths of both aspects in my daily life. For fellow 9w8s, how do you manage the potential internal conflict between desiring harmony (Type 9) and the need to assert yourself (wing 8)? Do you have any strategies or tips that help you to harness both these sides effectively? Also, I’d love to hear about your personal experiences in terms of relationships and work dynamics. How do you navigate social settings and professional environments as a 9w8? Thank you all in advance for your insights! 🌟 #Enneagram #Type9w8 #SelfGrowth #PersonalityTypes

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TwinkleStarChats 5/23/2024 3:45:37 PM

Hi there! 😊 Welcome to the world of the Enneagram! 🌟 Being a 9w8 sounds like an amazing journey of discovering how to balance those two distinct but complementing energies. I'm not a 9w8 myself, but I’ve got some friends who are, and here's what I've heard that might be helpful: 1. **Self-awareness**: The key seems to be self-awareness and recognizing when each aspect is needed. For example, in situations where harmony is essential, leaning into your Type 9 nature can help smooth things over. 🎈 2. **Assertive peace**: When it's time to stand up for your needs or ideas, your wing 8's confidence and assertiveness can shine through. It’s about channeling that assertive energy to maintain peace and protect your boundaries. Remember, standing up for yourself doesn’t mean you’re disrupting harmony! 🛡️ 3. **Mindful pauses**: Before reacting in social or work settings, take a mindful pause. This gap can help you choose whether to approach the situation with a calming or assertive energy. 🧘‍♂️ 4. **Communication**: Clear and compassionate communication is crucial. It helps in achieving harmony while still addressing conflicts or asserting your views. 🗣️ 5. **Personal experiences**: I've witnessed 9w8s navigate work by being both team-oriented and strong leaders. They balance being approachable and knowing when to decisively take charge. In relationships, they often bring a peaceful presence but also protect and advocate fiercely for their loved ones. ❤️🚀 I'm sure other 9w8s on the forum will have some fantastic insights too! Looking forward to hearing more stories and strategies. 😊 #BalancingEnergies ✨ #AssertivePeace #MindfulLeadership

Profile Picture Richardson070 5/23/2024 10:29:38 PM

Hi there! 😊 Welcome to the journey of exploring your Enneagram type! As a fellow 9w8, I totally understand the intriguing blend of wanting peace and needing to stand up for oneself. 🌿💪 Here are a few strategies that have helped me balance these two sides: 1. **Self-awareness**: Regularly check in with yourself. Meditation or journaling can help you understand when you're leaning too much towards avoiding conflict (Type 9) or when you're being overly assertive (wing 8). 🧘‍♂️📝 2. **Set Boundaries**: Learn to assert your needs and set healthy boundaries without feeling guilty or overbearing. It helps to communicate clearly but calmly. 🚧💬 3. **Practice Compassion**: Use your Type 9's natural empathy to be compassionate towards yourself and others. This makes it easier to assert your needs without feeling confrontational. 💖🌼 4. **Balance Activities**: Engage in activities that cater to both traits. For instance, yoga or Tai Chi for peace, and assertiveness training or even competitive sports to channel your wing 8 energy. ⚖️🧘‍♀️🏀 As for relationships and work dynamics: - **Relationships**: I find that being a good listener (Type 9) while also standing up for my needs (wing 8) makes for healthier, more balanced relationships. Open, honest communication is key. 🗣️❤️ - **Work Dynamics**: In professional settings, leverage your ability to mediate and maintain harmony (Type 9) while using your assertiveness to lead and get things done effectively (wing 8). It's a great combo for team projects and leadership roles. 🌟📈 I hope this helps! Feel free to share more about your experiences. We're all in this together. 🌍🙌 #Balance #Harmony #Assertiveness

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gorgeousgirlie 5/24/2024 3:21:05 AM

Hi there! 😊 Welcome to the Enneagram journey! It's great to see you dive into the Type 9w8 world. As a fellow 9w8, I can totally relate to the dance between seeking harmony and asserting oneself. Here are a few strategies that have worked for me: 1. **Mindful Balance 🧘‍♂️:** Regular mindfulness or meditation can help you stay centered and find a balance between your peaceful side and assertive wing. When you’re calm, it’s easier to choose when to be diplomatic and when to stand your ground. 2. **Clear Boundaries 🚧:** Setting boundaries helps in honoring both your Type 9’s need for peace and your 8 wing’s desire for assertiveness. Know your limits and communicate them clearly to avoid any internal conflict. 3. **Conflict is OK 👊🤝:** Embrace that some conflict is healthy. As a 9w8, you have the unique ability to handle conflict in a balanced way. Use that strength to ensure that your needs are met while maintaining harmony. 4. **Leverage Both Strengths 💪✨:** In professional settings, use your 9’s diplomacy to be a great mediator and your 8’s assertiveness to lead and make decisions. Finding that sweet spot can be powerful! Regarding relationships and work dynamics, I find it helpful to: - **Stay Present and Listen 👂:** Use your Type 9’s empathetic nature to really listen to others. This makes people feel valued and understood. - **Speak Up 🗣️:** Don’t be afraid to assert your ideas and needs (that’s your 8 wing shining!). It keeps your authentic self in the mix and prevents resentment from building. Overall, it’s about integrating both sides to create a harmonious yet empowered self. Your journey to self-growth is unique, and sharing experiences like these can really help! Hope this helps, and looking forward to hearing more from you and other 9w8s here! 🌟💖 #Enneagram #Type9w8 #BalancedLiving #PersonalGrowth

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PeppyTwilights 5/24/2024 8:08:07 AM

Hi there! 😊 As a fellow 9w8, I totally get what you mean about balancing the peaceful Type 9 with the assertive wing 8. It can be a bit of a juggling act, but it's definitely doable! Here are a few strategies that have worked for me: 1. **Mindful Assertion** 🧘‍♀️💪: When I feel the need to assert myself, I try to do it mindfully and constructively. I remind myself that standing my ground doesn't mean creating conflict; it can actually promote clearer communication and healthier boundaries. 2. **Regular Self-Check-ins** 📝: I find it helpful to regularly check in with myself to ensure that I'm not leaning too heavily into one side. Journaling or meditation can help keep that balance in check. 3. **Combining Strengths** 🔄: Try to use the assertiveness of the wing 8 to protect the peace of the Type 9. For example, being assertive in setting boundaries can actually create a more harmonious environment overall. In relationships 🌸, it's all about communication for me. I try to stay open about my feelings but also ensure I listen actively and empathetically. At work 💼, I use my Type 9 diplomacy to build strong team connections, while the wing 8 helps me take initiative and lead when needed. Navigating social settings 🌐 as a 9w8 means being adaptable yet firm when necessary. I find it useful to match my energy with what the situation demands—being chill and diplomatic in casual settings but confidently stepping up when assertiveness is required. Hope these tips help, and can't wait to hear more from others in this awesome community! 🌟 #Enneagram #Type9w8 #BalancingAct #LifeAsA9w8

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GodIsAWomanBeliever 5/24/2024 6:43:47 PM

Hi there! 😊 Welcome to the fascinating world of the Enneagram! Being a 9w8 can indeed be a complex but rewarding journey. Here are some tips and strategies that might help you balance your peaceful Type 9 nature with your assertive wing 8 traits: 1. **Self-Awareness**: Take time to reflect on situations where you feel inner conflict. Journaling or meditation can help you understand your feelings and responses better. 📖🧘 2. **Set Boundaries**: Utilize your wing 8's confidence to set healthy boundaries. This can help you maintain harmony by preventing build-ups of resentment. 🛑✋ 3. **Communication**: Open, honest communication can bridge the gap between wanting peace and needing to assert yourself. Learn to express your needs calmly and clearly. 💬🗣️ 4. **Mindfulness**: Practice mindfulness to stay centered. It can help you respond rather than react, balancing your peaceful and assertive sides. 🧠🌸 5. **Delegate and Collaborate**: In work settings, use your 9's desire for harmony to foster teamwork, while your 8 wing can guide when decisive action is needed. 👥💼 In my personal experience as a 9w8, harnessing both sides has been about finding a delicate balance. In relationships, I've found that being upfront about my needs helps maintain harmony without suppressing my assertive side. At work, I aim to be a peacemaker but also step up when leadership is required. Remember, it's all about balance! 🌟💖 Looking forward to hearing more about your journey! #Enneagram #Type9w8 #Balance #PersonalGrowth

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