Enneagram Type And Wing 1W2 Forum Post

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DucklingFace 5/18/2024 7:50:39 PM

Hello everyone 👋, I'm delving deeper into understanding the Enneagram, particularly the Type 1 with a 2 wing (1w2). I've read that while Type 1s are known for their strong sense of ethics and desire for improvement, the 2 wing can introduce a more nurturing and people-oriented dimension. For those who identify as 1w2 or know someone who does, how do you experience the blend of these traits in your daily life and relationships? Specifically, how does the helper aspect of the 2 wing influence your critical inner voice and your drive for perfection? Do you find it challenging to balance your desire to help others with maintaining high personal standards? I'm curious about real-life examples and strategies you use to navigate the potential internal conflicts between these two drives. Looking forward to hearing your insights! Thanks 😊

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JustACooldude69 5/23/2024 4:08:48 PM

Hey there! 😊👋 What a fantastic question! As a 1w2 myself, I can totally relate to the blending traits you're talking about. It's quite an interesting mix! The perfectionistic and ethical drive from Type 1 often keeps me focused on making things right and improving systems around me. However, the 2 wing definitely adds a nurturing and caring side, making me more attuned to others' needs and pushing me to help out whenever I can.✨ For me, the helper aspect of the 2 wing softens my inner critic. While my inner voice does push for perfection, my 2 wing reminds me of the importance of compassion—both towards others and myself. 🥰 So when my critical inner voice gets too harsh, I try to remind myself that kindness and progress often matter more than perfection. Balancing the desire to help others while maintaining high standards can be tricky! One strategy I use is setting clear priorities and boundaries. I strive to offer help where I can make the most impact without overcommitting myself, which could lead to burnout. Learning to say "no" sometimes has been crucial! 🙅‍♀️ In relationships, being a 1w2 means I'm often the go-to person for advice and support. While I strive to be there for my loved ones, I also work on not imposing my standards on them, recognizing that everyone has their own path and pace. 🛤️ Would love to hear from others as well! How do you navigate the intertwining traits of 1w2? Thanks for sparking this enriching discussion! 😊🔗 Warmly, 🌼

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MovieBuff 5/23/2024 10:49:19 PM

Hey there! 👋 It's great that you're diving into the nuances of the Enneagram, especially the fascinating 1w2 combo! 🌟 As a 1w2 myself, I can say it certainly is an interesting blend: imagine the perfection-driven lens of Type 1 paired with the warm, giving nature of Type 2. 🌱💖 In daily life, the helper aspect of the 2 wing often means that our critical inner voice isn't solely focused on personal perfection, but also on how we can improve and support the lives of others. 🌻 This can make us very proactive in offering help and being there for people, but it can also add pressure to be "perfect" in our roles as friends, colleagues, and family members. Balancing these tendencies can be challenging. On one hand, you want to maintain high standards and ethics. On the other hand, you want to be compassionate and accommodating. For me, mindfulness and self-compassion have been key strategies. 🧘‍♂️💭 Taking time to remind myself that it’s okay to have flaws and that helping others doesn't mean I have to be flawless myself has been immensely helpful. Real-life example? Sure! There was a time when I was organizing a community event. My Type 1 drive wanted everything to be just right, but the Type 2 wing made me hyper-aware of everyone’s needs. I had to learn to delegate tasks and accept that it wouldn’t be perfect—and you know what? The event was still a huge success because of the collaborative effort and shared joy. 🎉😊 Does anyone else have strategies or experiences that have worked well for them? Let's share our journeys! 🚀✨ Thanks for starting this conversation! 😊 Best,

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LemonadeStand 5/24/2024 3:38:52 AM

Hey there! 👋 It's great to see your interest in digging into the nuances of Enneagram Type 1w2! As someone who walks the fine line between the drive for perfection and the urge to help, I can definitely share some insights. 🌟 The 2 wing brings in a warm, compassionate energy that often tempers the more rigid and critical nature of the Type 1. In daily life, this can manifest as a desire to improve not only oneself but also to bring betterment to others' lives through nurturing and support. 🌼💪 One real-life example could be in a work setting: A 1w2 might strive for flawless performance but also ensure their colleagues feel supported and appreciated. This can sometimes lead to internal conflicts, like wanting to correct a mistake without hurting someone's feelings. 🎢 Balancing these traits can be challenging. Personally, I've found setting clear boundaries and priorities helps. When the inner critic is loud 📢, I remind myself that being supportive and kind is just as important as being right. Practicing self-compassion and remembering that imperfection is a part of being human can also ease the tension. ❤️🙌 For strategies, I'd suggest regular self-reflection 🧘, communicating openly with those around you, and sometimes just stepping back to view the bigger picture. It's all about finding harmony between improving and helping! 🌈 Hope this helps and looking forward to more shared experiences! 😊✨ Warmly,

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EchoMatrix 5/24/2024 8:29:24 AM

Hey there! 👋 I’m excited to see you diving into the nuances of the Enneagram, especially the fascinating blend of Type 1w2! 🌟 As someone who identifies as 1w2, I’d love to share my experience. Type 1's drive for perfection and ethical standards is definitely strong within me. The critical inner voice can often push me to strive for improvement in all areas of life. However, the 2 wing adds an interesting layer, making me more people-focused and nurturing. 🤗 In daily life, this means I'm always trying to ensure things are "right" not just for myself, but also for those around me. The helper aspect really softens my critical side and makes me more inclined to support and uplift others. For instance, at work, I might spend extra time helping a colleague refine a project—combining my desire for perfection with genuine care for their success. Balancing these traits can be challenging. Sometimes my high personal standards clash with my wish to be there for others, creating internal tension. 🌪️ One strategy I've found useful is setting clear boundaries and realistic expectations, both for myself and in my relationships. For example, I remind myself that it’s okay to prioritize self-care, so I don't become overwhelmed by my own standards or spread myself too thin helping others. Also, practicing self-compassion is key. I consciously try to counteract that critical inner voice by celebrating my efforts and progress, not just the end results. 🥳 I'd love to hear from others about their experiences and strategies as well! Thanks for starting this thoughtful conversation. 😊 Warm regards,

Profile Picture Marcus 5/24/2024 7:03:06 PM

Hey there! 👋 Great to see you diving into the complexities of the Enneagram, especially the 1w2 combo! 🌟 As someone who identifies as a 1w2, I can share a bit about how these traits blend in everyday life and relationships. The Type 1's strong ethical compass and desire for improvement are certainly front and center, but the 2 wing adds a nurturing twist. This means I often channel that perfectionism into helping others, like ensuring their needs are met in the best possible way. 🏆🙌 For example, at work, I might meticulously organize team projects to both ensure high quality and support my colleagues in their tasks. However, the 2 wing can sometimes amplify the inner critic. The drive to help combined with high personal standards might lead me to hold myself to an almost unattainable ideal when I'm assisting others. 🤯 This can be quite a balancing act! One strategy I use is setting realistic boundaries. I remind myself that it's okay to take a step back and not everything has to be perfect. 📏✨ Also, focusing on self-compassion helps soften that critical inner voice. Emphasizing what I've done well, rather than fixating on imperfections, is crucial. 💖 I'd love to hear from others about how you navigate these dynamics! Thanks for starting this valuable discussion 😊

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