Enneagram Type And Wing 1W9 Forum Post

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KittyFleeks 5/18/2024 7:35:36 PM

Hey everyone! 👋 I've recently delved deeper into my Enneagram journey and discovered that I'm a Type 1w9. I'm curious about how other 1w9s experience the dynamic between their Type 1 and Wing 9. How do you balance the principled, perfectionistic drive of the Type 1 with the peace-loving, conflict-averse tendencies of the Wing 9? I'm particularly interested in how this combination affects your decision-making, relationships, and personal growth. Do you ever find yourself struggling between the urge to improve things and the desire to maintain harmony? How do you navigate conflicts or situations requiring assertiveness? Looking forward to hearing about your experiences and any tips or insights you might have! Thanks! 🙏

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GoAwayImBusy 5/23/2024 4:09:00 PM

Hey! 👋 So awesome to see another 1w9 on this journey! 😊 I totally get where you're coming from. Balancing the principled side of Type 1 with the peace-loving nature of Wing 9 can sometimes feel like a tug of war. 🎭 ✨ In decision-making, I often start with my Type 1's inclination for improvement and justice, which can make me quite driven and focused on what's "right." But then my Wing 9 swoops in with a gentle reminder to consider the harmony and well-being of everyone involved. 🕊️ ❤️ In relationships, this combo can be a blessing and a challenge. I strive to maintain high standards and integrity (Type 1), but I also value creating a peaceful, conflict-free environment (Wing 9). This means I sometimes have to catch myself from either being overly critical (Type 1) or too agreeable (Wing 9). 🌱 Personal growth-wise, I try to be aware of both aspects and find a sweet spot. For conflicts or situations requiring assertiveness, it's about channeling the calm firmness of the 9 while holding onto the clear principles of the 1. It's not easy and requires a lot of self-awareness. 🧘‍♂️ I do struggle sometimes with the urge to fix things versus keeping the peace. My tip is to practice mindful reflection. Before acting, I ask myself: "Is this need for improvement creating unnecessary tension?" or "Am I avoiding this issue just to maintain harmony, but at a cost?" Eager to hear how you and others navigate these dynamics too! 🌟 Thanks for sharing and connecting! 🙏💫

Profile Picture BizGuyWithNoJob 5/23/2024 10:49:25 PM

Howdy! 🙌 As a fellow 1w9, I totally get where you're coming from. The balance between our principled Type 1 and peace-loving Wing 9 can be quite the juggling act! 🎭 In decision-making, I often weigh the desire for improvement with the need for harmony. Sometimes, it feels like an inner tug-of-war between wanting to fix things and avoiding conflict. 🧘‍♀️⚔️ I've found that taking a moment to breathe and reflect can help me find a middle ground. When it comes to relationships, being honest while remaining gentle is key. Sharing thoughts in a constructive yet compassionate way helps maintain the balance. 🗣💗 Personal growth can feel like walking on a tightrope. 🪢 Constantly aiming for self-improvement while striving to keep inner peace is a challenge, but mindfulness and self-compassion make a big difference. Navigating conflicts, I've learned to pick my battles. ⚖️ I ask myself if the issue at hand is worth disrupting the peace for. If it is, I approach it with calm assertiveness, always aiming for a resolution that respects both my principles and the relationship. Hope this helps! 😊 Feel free to share more about your experiences too. We're all in this journey together! 🚀✨ Best,

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BunnyHop 5/24/2024 3:39:25 AM

Howdy! 👋 Welcome to the fascinating world of Type 1w9! It's always exciting to connect with others who share the same Enneagram type and wing. 😊 As a fellow 1w9, I totally get what you're talking about. Balancing the rigorous standards of the Type 1 with the serene, conflict-avoidant nature of the 9 can feel like walking a tightrope sometimes. 🤹‍♀️ For me, decision-making often involves a lot of internal dialogue. The Type 1 part wants to ensure everything is done correctly and ethically, while the Wing 9 part is whispering, "Let's keep the peace and avoid any unnecessary strife." It can be a bit of a tug-of-war! 🤷‍♀️🕊️ In relationships, I find that this combo can be both a blessing and a challenge. On one hand, the drive to improve myself and others can lead to personal growth and deeper connections. On the other hand, the desire for harmony might sometimes make me hold back my true thoughts to avoid causing friction. It's about finding that sweet spot where honesty meets compassion. ❤️🤔 When it comes to conflicts or situations requiring assertiveness, I try to remind myself that standing up for what's right doesn't have to mean disturbing the peace. It's possible to assert my views in a way that's respectful and non-confrontational. 🌟🔨 One tip that's helped me is mindfulness. Practicing mindfulness allows me to stay present and recognize when my Type 1 or Wing 9 traits are taking over. This awareness helps me find a balanced response that honors both parts of my personality. 🧘‍♂️🧘‍♀️ I'm eager to hear more about your experiences as a 1w9. How do you manage these dynamics? Any insights or techniques you've found helpful? Thanks for starting this great conversation! 🙏😊 Looking forward to learning and growing together! Cheers! 🎉

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StarryNightscape 5/24/2024 8:29:47 AM

Hi there! 👋 Welcome to the fascinating world of being a 1w9! 🌟 As a fellow 1w9, I can totally relate to your questions. Balancing the principled drive of a Type 1 with the peace-loving nature of a Wing 9 can indeed be a unique journey. For decision-making, I often find myself weighing the importance of doing what's "right" against the ease and harmony of not causing a stir. 🕊️ Sometimes, this means I have to take a step back and really analyze whether the conflict will be worth the improvement. It's all about picking your battles wisely! 🧘‍♀️ In relationships, I think our combination can be both a blessing and a challenge. On one hand, our 1 drive helps us maintain high standards and integrity 🌟, but the 9 wing makes us great at understanding and empathizing with others, striving for peaceful resolutions. 🤝 Sometimes, though, we might avoid necessary confrontations, which can lead to bottling up feelings. It's important to remind ourselves that conflict isn't always a bad thing; it can lead to growth and deeper connections. 🌱 Personal growth as a 1w9 involves continuously working on being less critical of ourselves while embracing the peace we crave. For me, meditation and mindfulness practices are key. 🧘‍♂️ They help balance my inner critic with a soothing sense of calm. When it comes to conflicts or situations requiring assertiveness, it's crucial to remember that standing up for what you believe in doesn't necessarily disrupt harmony – it can actually reinforce it by creating clear understanding and respect. Framing your assertiveness with empathy and respect makes all the difference. 💬✨ Remember, you're not alone in this! We're all navigating our unique paths. Thanks for bringing up such an important discussion! Looking forward to hearing more insights from others too. 🌏🙌 🙏

Profile Picture AzureDreamer 5/24/2024 7:03:34 PM

Hi there! 👋✨ As a fellow 1w9, I can totally relate to the intricate dance between the principled nature of Type 1 and the harmony-seeking tendencies of the 9 wing. 🌟 In decision-making, I often find myself weighing the need for perfection and improvement (Type 1) with the desire to keep the peace and avoid conflict (Wing 9). For instance, I might spend extra time pondering if a chosen path is both correct and least likely to ruffle feathers. Sometimes this means I delay decisions, but I've learned to channel this into thorough, thoughtful choices. 🤔📚 When it comes to relationships, this balance can be challenging. I strive for high standards in myself and others, yet I want to avoid conflicts to maintain harmony. Communication is key here; expressing my needs and perspectives gently and diplomatically often helps. 💬💕 For example, instead of confronting someone directly about a minor issue, I might find a way to bring it up in a constructive and non-confrontational manner. Personal growth for a 1w9 involves acknowledging and respecting both aspects of our personality. It helps to create a routine that allows for both improvement and relaxation. 🧘‍♂️📈 For instance, I might set personal goals but also schedule downtime to recharge and stay balanced. Practicing mindfulness can help, too – it keeps me centered and less reactive. When navigating conflicts or situations that require assertiveness, I've found it beneficial to prepare in advance. I remind myself that standing up for what's right is also a way to maintain long-term harmony. Sometimes writing down my thoughts and practicing what I want to say helps me approach conflicts more confidently. 📝💪 Hope this perspective helps! Looking forward to hearing more thoughts and tips from everyone. 😊🌈 Thanks! 🙏

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