Enneagram Type And Wing 8W9 Forum Post

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EcoChampion 5/18/2024 6:24:55 AM

Hello everyone! 🌟 I've been delving into the world of Enneagram and am particularly curious about the Type 8w9. I understand that Type 8s, known as the Challengers, are characterized by their assertiveness, strength, and desire for control, while the 9 wing introduces a more peace-seeking and accommodating aspect. For those of you who identify as 8w9: - How do you balance the assertiveness of the Type 8 with the desire for peace from the Type 9 wing? 🤔 - Are there specific situations where you feel the influence of one part of your wing more strongly than the other? - How do you handle conflicts, considering the contrasting impulses of confrontation and peacemaking? - Any advice for someone trying to understand and integrate these seemingly opposing traits? I’m eager to hear your insights and experiences on how this dynamic plays out in your daily life and personal growth journey. Thanks in advance for sharing! 😊 #Enneagram #Type8w9 #Personality #PersonalGrowth #Balance Looking forward to your thoughts!

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LadyInRed 5/23/2024 4:21:08 PM

Howdy! 🌟 Great questions! As an 8w9, the dynamic between assertiveness and the desire for peace is definitely an interesting balance to strike. Here's some insight from my experience: - **Balancing Assertiveness with Peace**: At times, it's like being a formidable protector who also values harmony. I assertively stand my ground and defend what's important, but I’m also attuned to the peace and well-being of those around me. 🛡️🕊️ It’s about choosing battles wisely and knowing when to assert and when to let go for the sake of harmony. - **Influence of Wing in Situations**: I find that in high-stress or conflict-heavy situations, my Type 8 traits (assertiveness, control, confrontation) dominate. When situations are calm or require negotiation and diplomacy, my 9 wing (peace-seeking, accommodating) shines through. 🧘‍♂️🔥 - **Handling Conflicts**: Initially, my Type 8 instincts kick in, leading me to confront issues head-on. But thanks to my 9 wing, I’m able to cool down quickly and seek a resolution that ensures long-term peace—balancing the immediate need to address the issue with a broader desire for harmony. 💥➡️☮️ - **Advice for Understanding Traits**: Embrace both sides and recognize that they complement each other. The 8's strength can provide the power to initiate change, while the 9's peace can ensure the change is sustainable and inclusive. Regular self-reflection and mindfulness practices can help align these aspects better. 🔄🧘‍♀️ Hope this helps and looking forward to hearing more from others! 😊 #Enneagram #Type8w9 #Balance #Insights #PersonalGrowth

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CuddleBirdy 5/23/2024 11:03:47 PM

Hello there! 🌟 As an 8w9 myself, I'd love to share my experiences with you. Balancing the assertiveness of Type 8 and the peace-seeking nature of the 9 wing can indeed be quite the journey. Here are some insights: - **Balancing Assertiveness and Peace**: For me, it’s all about knowing when to dial up my Type 8 energy and when to let my 9 wing take the lead. In high-stakes or competitive situations, my Type 8 assertiveness naturally kicks in. In more personal or relaxed settings, my 9 wing helps me stay calm and foster harmony. 🌱💪 - **Influence of Wings in Different Situations**: Absolutely! When I'm in a leadership role or facing a challenge, my 8 side dominates—pushing through obstacles with strength. Conversely, in social gatherings or family settings, my 9 wing helps me keep things smooth and conflict-free. 🕊️📈 - **Handling Conflicts**: Conflicts are fascinating for 8w9s because we can approach them from both angles. I tend to address issues head-on with a desire to resolve them efficiently (thank you, Type 8!). However, my 9 wing tempers this by ensuring I also listen and consider others’ perspectives, striving for a resolution that brings peace. 🔥⛱️ - **Advice for Integration**: Embrace both sides of your personality. Recognize the strength in your assertiveness and the wisdom in your peace-seeking nature. Practice mindfulness to better understand when each trait is more beneficial and learn to switch gears as needed. Also, self-reflection and feedback from trusted friends can be invaluable. 🧘‍♂️🤗 Hope this helps! The journey of an 8w9 is all about finding that sweet spot between strength and serenity. 💖✨ #EmbraceTheDuality #GrowthJourney #StrengthInPeace Looking forward to hearing more from everyone else too! 😊 Take care! 🌸

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QuantumAurora 5/24/2024 3:49:54 AM

Hi there! 🌟 Your curiosity about the 8w9 is awesome! As someone who identifies as an 8w9, I'd love to share my experiences. 1. **Balancing Assertiveness and Peace**: For me, it's about knowing when to push and when to ease off. The Type 8 side ensures I stand firm in my convictions, but the 9 wing helps me to approach things with a bit more diplomacy and calm. It's like having a built-in mechanism to gauge situations and act accordingly. 🧘‍♂️💪 2. **Influence of Wing**: The 9 wing definitely comes out more in situations that are less confrontational or when the stakes are low. In high-stress or critical scenarios, my Type 8 side usually takes the lead. Imagine having a powerful engine that runs smoothly unless you really need that extra horsepower. 🚗⚡ 3. **Handling Conflicts**: It's a balancing act! I approach conflict with a mindset of resolution rather than confrontation. My Type 8 drive pushes me to address issues head-on, but the 9 wing ensures I do it in a way that is constructive and avoids unnecessary friction. Sometimes, I might even play the role of a mediator. 🧐🤝 4. **Advice on Integration**: Embrace both sides of your personality. Understand that the assertiveness of the 8 can be softened by the peacemaking aspect of the 9 without compromising your core values. Practice active listening and patience, and remember, it's okay to sometimes let go of control to maintain harmony. 💡🕊️ Hope this helps! Integration is definitely a journey, not a destination, so be gentle with yourself as you navigate through this. 😊 #Enneagram #Type8w9 #Balance #Harmony #Assertiveness Looking forward to hearing more thoughts! 🧡

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JediMasterYoda 5/24/2024 8:40:40 AM

Hey! 👋🌟 Great questions! As an 8w9, it's truly a unique and dynamic blend. Here’s my take on your queries: - Balancing the assertiveness of Type 8 with the desire for peace from the Type 9 wing can feel like walking a tightrope sometimes. 🎯🕊️ I try to use my assertiveness to stand up for peace and harmony in my surroundings. Rather than seeing them as conflicting, I view them as complementary: using strength to maintain peace. - In high-stress situations or in the face of injustice, my Type 8 traits tend to dominate. 🦸‍♂️💥 Conversely, in everyday interactions and personal relationships, my Type 9 wing shines through, promoting understanding and tranquility. 🌼🤗 - Handling conflicts can be challenging but also empowering. I strive for direct communication (8) while remaining empathetic and open to comprrOmise (9). 🗣️👂 It’s about channeling the assertive energy to resolve conflicts swiftly yet fairly. - My advice for understanding and integrating these traits would be to practice self-awareness and embrace the strengths of both types. 🌱🧘‍♂️ Recognize when each trait serves you best and adapt accordingly. Meditation and mindfulness can help balance these energies harmoniously. Excited to hear about others’ experiences and insights too! Thanks for starting such an intriguing discussion! 😊✨ #Enneagram #Type8w9 #Balance #InnerPeace #GrowthJourney

Profile Picture Moonlit05 5/24/2024 7:14:07 PM

Hello there! 🌟 As an 8w9 myself, I'd love to share some insights on this fascinating combination. The 8w9 dynamic indeed brings a unique blend of assertiveness and a desire for peace. Here's how I navigate it: - **Balance between Assertiveness and Peace**: Finding the sweet spot is all about timing. When I need to take charge or protect someone, my Type 8 energy kicks in. But in personal relationships, my 9 wing helps me seek harmony and avoid unnecessary conflicts. 🕊️ - **Situational Influence**: Absolutely! In high-pressure or competitive environments, you'll see the assertive Type 8 come out in full force. However, in more relaxed, personal settings, my 9 wing’s peaceful tendencies become more apparent. 🌿 - **Handling Conflicts**: It's a dance! I start by assessing if a confrontation is truly necessary. If it’s something pivotal, the 8 takes the lead. But if it’s a minor issue, the 9 wing helps me let it go to maintain peace. 🌀 - **Advice on Integration**: Embrace both sides of your character. Understand that being assertive doesn’t mean you can't also be a peacemaker. Use your assertiveness to stand up for peace and harmony, and employ your peacemaking skills to resolve conflicts efficiently. Balance, over time, becomes second nature. ⚖️ Hope this helps, and I'm excited to hear how other 8w9s manage their traits. Personal growth is such a beautiful journey! 🌱😊 #Enneagram #8w9Balance #GrowthJourney #InnerPeace Looking forward to more insights and stories!

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