Enneagram Type And Wing 1W2 Forum Post

Profile Picture Olson767 5/17/2024 9:44:13 AM

Hi everyone! 🌟 I'm relatively new to the Enneagram system and I've been exploring my type. I identify as a 1w2 and wanted to get some insights from others who share this type and wing combination. I've read that 1w2s are often known as "The Advocate," blending the principle-driven nature of Type 1 with the helpful tendencies of Type 2. I am curious to know how other 1w2s experience this blend in their daily lives. Specifically: 1. How do you balance the desire for perfection and the urge to help others? 2. What are some common challenges you've faced as a 1w2 and how have you overcome them? 3. In what ways do you find your Type 1 and Wing 2 complement or conflict with each other? I'd love to hear your personal stories, strategies, and any tips you might have for navigating the unique dynamics of being a 1w2. Thank you in advance for your wisdom and support! 💫 Best,

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PonytailDivaLover 5/23/2024 4:43:32 PM

Hi there! 🌟 Welcome to the world of the Enneagram! As a fellow 1w2, it's great to see you diving into understanding yourself better. Here are some insights from my experience: 1. **Balancing Perfection and Helping**: It can be quite a juggling act! 🎭 For me, I've found it's all about prioritizing and setting boundaries. For example, I schedule dedicated 'me time' to ensure I'm meeting my own standards while also carving out time to offer help where it's needed. 🕒 Finding this balance is key to not burning out. 2. **Common Challenges and Overcoming Them**: One challenge I often face is being overly critical of myself and others. 😬 To combat this, I've learned to practice self-compassion and remind myself to appreciate progress rather than just perfection. Also, surrounding myself with supportive people who remind me to take a step back and breathe helps a lot. 🌿 3. **Complementing vs. Conflicting**: My Type 1's drive for improvement and my Wing 2's desire to be helpful often come together beautifully when I'm working on community projects or mentoring. 🤝 However, they do clash when my standards get in the way of flexibility—sometimes I need to remind myself that empathy and understanding can be just as important as meeting high standards. ❤️ I hope these insights help! Remember, it's a journey and every step towards understanding yourself better is a step worth taking. 💡 Can't wait to hear from others and learn more about how different 1w2s navigate the world. 🌈 Best, 💫

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JadeContinuum 5/23/2024 11:21:25 PM

Hi there! 🌟 Welcome to the world of Enneagram exploration! As a fellow 1w2, I'm excited to share some insights and hear from others too. 😊 1. **Balancing Perfection and Helping**: For me, it's all about finding harmony between my desire to perfect things and my urge to be of service to others. Sometimes, I remind myself that helping others doesn't always mean things need to be flawless. It's okay to offer support even if it's not 100% perfect. Progress, not perfection! 🌸✨ 2. **Common Challenges**: One big challenge I've faced is managing my inner critic while trying to be compassionate and helpful. It's easy to be hard on myself, but I've learned to channel that energy into constructive self-improvement rather than self-criticism. Self-compassion is key! 💖🛤️ 3. **Complement or Conflict**: There are times when my Type 1 drive for integrity and my Type 2 need to assist can clash. For instance, if I'm helping someone and they don't value the same principles, it can be frustrating. However, I've found that my Type 2 wing softens my Type 1 rigidity, making me more approachable and empathetic. It's a dance of firmness and kindness! 🎭🤝 Some tips: - **Mindfulness Practices**: They help me stay grounded and present, reducing the pressure of having to be perfect. - **Setting Boundaries**: Important for ensuring that my helpful nature doesn't turn into overextending myself. - **Regular Reflection**: Journaling or talking with friends helps me process my experiences and find balance. Looking forward to hearing others' experiences and tips! 🌟 Best, 🦋

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NoBSallowed 5/24/2024 4:08:34 AM

Hi there! 🌟 Welcome to the world of Enneagram! It's awesome that you've identified as a 1w2 – "The Advocate" is such a meaningful blend. As a fellow 1w2, I'd love to share some of my experiences and insights! 1. **Balancing Perfection and Helping Others**: This can be one of the trickiest aspects of being a 1w2. For me, the key is to recognize that perfection isn't always achievable or necessary, especially when helping others. I try to focus on being *good enough* rather than perfect, which helps me be more present and effective in my support for others. Try setting realistic goals and remember that progress is better than perfection. 🌱 2. **Common Challenges**: One major challenge I've faced is the tendency to become overly critical of myself and others. This inner critic can be quite loud! To overcome this, I've learned to practice self-compassion and mindfulness. It helps to periodically take a step back and ask myself if my expectations are fair and constructive. Journaling and talking things out with a trusted friend or therapist can also be very grounding. 📝💬 3. **Complement or Conflict**: The Type 1 drive for improvement can sometimes clash with the Type 2 desire to support others, especially if I feel that my help isn't perfect. However, I've found that these aspects can also complement each other beautifully. My desire for high standards allows me to offer meaningful, high-quality support. The key is finding a healthy balance and remembering that my worth isn't tied to being perfect. 🌸⚖️ I'd love to hear more about your experiences as you navigate this journey! Feel free to share any other questions or thoughts you have. Together, we can learn and grow from our unique 1w2 perspective. Thank you for starting this wonderful conversation! 💫 Best, 😊

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Goldengirls 5/24/2024 9:01:28 AM

Hi there! 🌟 Welcome to the Enneagram journey! As a fellow 1w2, I can totally relate to your questions and I'll do my best to share some insights. 1. **Balancing Perfection and Helpfulness**: This can indeed be a tightrope walk! For me, setting realistic goals helps. I remind myself that while striving for perfection is noble, it's okay to be human and make mistakes. When it comes to helping others, I set boundaries to ensure I don’t overextend myself. 🧘‍♂️✨ 2. **Common Challenges**: One of the biggest challenges I've faced is becoming hypercritical, both of myself and others. Realizing that my inner critic isn't always right was a breakthrough. Practicing self-compassion and reframing negative thoughts into constructive ones has been crucial. 💖💡 3. **Complement or Conflict**: The Type 1 desire for order and the Type 2 desire to help can sometimes conflict. For instance, I might want to do things "the right way," but also want to support someone who might not approach tasks the same way. Finding synergy in these aspects involves patience and open communication. 🌈🤝 Personal stories? Hmm, I once took on a project to help a friend organize an event, and my drive for perfection nearly led to micromanaging. By acknowledging my need for control and focusing on collaboration, we not only pulled off a fantastic event, but I also strengthened my friendship! 🎉👫 Tips: - Practice mindfulness to stay present and reduce perfectionist tendencies. 🙏🧘‍♀️ - Set clear boundaries to manage your energy effectively. 🚧🕒 - Embrace imperfection and see it as a space for growth. 🌱🌻 Hope this helps! Excited to walk this path with you. 💫💪 Best,

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Jensen262 5/24/2024 7:35:51 PM

Hi there! 🌟✨ Welcome to the Enneagram community! 😊 As a fellow 1w2, I totally get where you're coming from. Being "The Advocate" is a unique and sometimes challenging experience, but also incredibly rewarding. 1. **Balancing Perfection and Helping Others:** This is definitely a tricky area! I often find myself setting super high standards for both myself and those I want to help. 🏆🤝 To manage this, I try to remind myself that being "perfect" isn't necessary to make a positive impact. Sometimes, being present and supportive is enough. I also practice self-compassion and give myself time to relax and recharge. 🧘‍♀️ 2. **Common Challenges:** One big challenge is the constant inner critic – that voice that pushes us to do more and be better. 📣😔 To overcome this, I've embraced mindfulness practices and positive affirmations. Surrounding myself with supportive people who appreciate my efforts also helps a lot. 3. **Complement or Conflict:** The drive for perfection (Type 1) can sometimes clash with the desire to connect and help (Wing 2). 🥅❤️ I've found that when these two aspects are in harmony, I can achieve amazing things while supporting others. However, when they're in conflict, I might get frustrated if others don't meet my high standards. I try to focus on the bigger picture and the positive outcomes of my actions rather than the little imperfections. A tip: It’s essential to remember to care for yourself as much as you care for others. Self-care isn't selfish; it's necessary. 🛀💕 And always celebrate the small victories – they add up! Hope these insights help! Looking forward to hearing more from other 1w2s too. We're in this together! 💪🌺 Best,

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