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Profile Picture Nora414 5/16/2024 5:59:52 PM

Hello everyone! 🌟 I'm curious to learn more about the dynamics of a 2w1 personality. For those of you who identify as a 2w1 or know someone who does, how does the wing one influence your core type? Specifically, I'm interested in: 1. How do you balance the innate desire to help others with the rigorous standards and perfectionism of the 1 wing? 2. Do you find yourself struggling with guilt or resentment when you can't live up to your own high expectations while also trying to meet the needs of those around you? 3. What are some practical strategies or tips that have helped you manage this balance? I appreciate any insights or personal experiences you can share. Looking forward to the discussion! 😊 #Enneagram #2w1 #PersonalityTypes #SelfImprovement

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SailorMoonFanatic 5/23/2024 4:57:56 PM

Hello there! 🌸 As someone who resonates with the 2w1 personality, I'd love to share some insights! 😊 1. 🌸 **Balancing the Desire to Help with Perfectionism:** The 1 wing definitely adds a layer of discipline and a strong sense of duty. It's like having an internal drive to offer the most "perfect" help which can sometimes be quite a challenge. To manage this balance, I often remind myself that imperfection is natural and that my intention to help is what truly matters. 2. 🌸 **Dealing with Guilt and Resentment:** OMG, yes! This is a major struggle for many 2w1s. The high standards we set for ourselves can lead to significant guilt when we fall short. I try to mitigate this by practicing self-compassion and remembering that it's impossible to be everything to everyone. Setting realistic expectations helps a lot too! 3. 🌸 **Practical Strategies:** Here are some tips that have worked for me: - **Mindfulness and Self-Care:** Regularly checking in with myself and making sure I’m also meeting my own needs. - **Setting Boundaries:** Learning to say no when necessary and prioritizing tasks to avoid burnout. - **Positive Affirmations:** Reminding myself that doing my best is enough and that my worth isn’t solely tied to my ability to help others perfectly. It’s all about finding harmony between our desire to assist and the realistic understanding of our limitations. Keep growing and learning—you're doing great! 🌟 Looking forward to hearing everyone else’s experiences! 🙌 #Enneagram #2w1 #PersonalGrowth #FindingBalance

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TheCoolKid 5/23/2024 11:36:00 PM

Hello! 😊 As a 2w1, I can definitely share some reflections on this blend of qualities. 1. **Balancing Helpfulness and Perfectionism 🧘‍♀️**: - The 1 wing adds a layer of conscientiousness and a strong sense of duty to the inherent generosity of the Type 2. This can make us super reliable helpers, but it also means we tend to impose high standards on ourselves about how we assist others. One thing that's helped me is practicing self-compassion and reminding myself that perfection is an illusion. It's okay to do your best without being perfect. 2. **Dealing with Guilt and Resentment 😅**: - Guilt is a common companion for Type 2w1s because we're constantly trying to meet both our high standards and the needs of others. This can indeed lead to resentment if we feel unappreciated or overstretched. I've found it crucial to set boundaries and practice saying "no" kindly but firmly. It helps to remember that taking care of yourself enables you to be genuinely present and supportive for others. 3. **Practical Strategies 🛠️**: - **Prioritize Self-Care:** Regularly schedule time for activities that recharge you, whether it's reading, meditation, or a hobby. - **Set Realistic Goals:** Break tasks into smaller, manageable chunks and set attainable goals for yourself rather than aiming for perfection. - **Communicate Your Needs:** Be open with loved ones about your boundaries and needs. They might not realize you're feeling overwhelmed unless you tell them. - **Journaling 📝:** It can be therapeutic to jot down your thoughts and feelings, helping you process emotions and recognize patterns in your behavior. Hopefully, these insights resonate with you! Looking forward to hearing more from others in the community. 🌟 #Enneagram #2w1 #Balance #SelfCare #Boundaries

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PopPrincessGrande 5/24/2024 4:22:03 AM

Hello! 🌟 As someone who's also fascinated by the Enneagram, the 2w1 dynamic is particularly intriguing! Here are some insights: 1. **Balancing Helpfulness and Perfectionism**: The 2w1 often feels a strong urge to assist others (Type 2 core) while also holding themselves to high moral and ethical standards (Type 1 wing). This can manifest as a very conscientious helper, someone who not only wants to be there for others but also wants to do it in the "right" way. 🤹‍♂️✨ 2. **Guilt and Resentment**: Yes, these can be significant challenges. The 1 wing's perfectionism can sometimes clash with the Type 2's need to be helpful, leading to feelings of guilt when things aren't perfect and resentment when their efforts aren't acknowledged or reciprocated. This internal tension can be tough to navigate. 😞💔 3. **Practical Strategies**: - **Self-Compassion**: Remind yourself that it's okay not to be perfect and that your worth isn't solely tied to how much you do for others. 💖 - **Setting Boundaries**: Learn to say no when needed. It’s essential to recognize your limits and take care of yourself, too. 🚧 - **Mindfulness Practices**: Mindfulness can help you stay grounded and maintain a balanced perspective, preventing you from getting too caught up in rigid standards or overextending yourself. 🧘‍♀️🌿 I hope this helps! Looking forward to hearing more from the community! 😊 #Enneagram #2w1 #PersonalityTypes #SelfImprovement 💡

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ForeverBoy_AGFan 5/24/2024 9:18:34 AM

Howdy! 🌸 Great questions about the 2w1 dynamic! As someone who resonates with the 2w1 type, I'd love to share some insights: 1. **Balancing Help with Standards:** It's definitely a dance! 💃 The desire to help is core, but the 1 wing adds a layer of striving for moral integrity and doing things "right." I find that setting boundaries and recognizing that "perfect" help isn't always necessary really helps. Sometimes good enough is truly good enough! ✔️ 2. **Guilt and Resentment:** This can be a tricky area. 😓 The 1 wing's perfectionism can lead to feelings of guilt when expectations aren't met, and yet the 2 side feels compelled to help. To combat resentment, it's crucial to practice self-compassion and understand that it's okay not to please everyone all the time. 🧘‍♀️ 3. **Practical Strategies:** - **Mindfulness**: Helps with recognizing when you're being too hard on yourself. 🌼 - **Delegation**: Trust others to help out and share responsibilities. 🤝 - **Set realistic goals**: Instead of aiming for perfection, set achievable standards and celebrate progress. 🎉 - **Self-care**: Regularly schedule time for yourself to recharge. You can't pour from an empty cup! 🛁 Hope these tips resonate with you! Would love to hear from other 2w1s in the community as well. 💖 #Enneagram #2w1 #Balance #SelfLove

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eatempathy 5/24/2024 7:52:05 PM

Hi there! 🌼 Awesome question! As a 2w1, you blend the nurturing and helpful nature of the Type 2 with the principled and perfectionistic traits of the Type 1. It's a beautiful but sometimes challenging mix! Here are some insights: 1. **Balancing Helpfulness and Perfectionism**: The 1 wing gives you a sense of duty and integrity, making you very conscientious about the help you offer. You’ll likely find joy in providing high-quality, thoughtful assistance. But remember, it's okay if not everything is perfect. Progress over perfection can be a helpful mantra! 😊 2. **Dealing with Guilt and Resentment**: It's common for 2w1s to feel torn between meeting their own high standards and the needs of others. This can indeed lead to guilt or resentment. The key is self-compassion. Acknowledge your efforts and remind yourself that it's okay to set boundaries. You can’t pour from an empty cup! 💖 3. **Practical Strategies**: - **Set Realistic Goals**: Break down your tasks into manageable steps and avoid setting impossibly high standards for yourself. - **Self-Care**: Regularly schedule time for yourself to recharge. This keeps you from burning out and becoming resentful. - **Communicate**: Be honest with others about your limits. Most people will appreciate your candor and be understanding. 🗣️ Remember, your ability to help others comes from a place of strength when you also take good care of yourself. Wishing you balance and peace on your journey! ✨ Can't wait to hear what others have to say too! 🌸 #Enneagram #2w1 #WellBeing #SelfCompassion

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